After that bitter-cold snap – it’s nice to have some reprieve and sunshine before we get back to the business of Winter. Rumi wrote that “the breezes at dawn have secrets to tell you.” These rowdy morning winds have certainly been telling us something lately!
Already deep in to the first week of February and I’m looking at my personal quarterly goals and scrambling a bit.
This year I’m trying a new strategy with myself – based on “positive psychology” and a book I read some years back written by Dr. Benjamin Hardy “Be Your Future Self NOW.” The super-brief synopsis is that research shows that our past doesn’t exactly command our behavior** – instead we can be “pulled forward by our future.” To simplify the concept: Ask yourself – “How will I feel tomorrow?”
For example: A quarterly goal is to schedule time to do Pilates three times a week. Let’s say, “for example,” that the reminder to do Pilates goes off but I’m kinda “busy” … puttering around with crafty stuff. So I say to myself – I’ll set a timer for 30 more minutes and THEN I’ll do Pilates. And so on, it goes. Rather, I should straight-up say to myself, “Hey! I set this goal because it’s important to me to get my alignment right. If I keep procrastinating, how will I feel tomorrow?” The short answer would be, “Slumpy.” And that would be enough to stop playing and get on the Wunda Chair. My “scrambling a bit” results from repeatedly hitting the 30 more minutes timer and not doing Pilates – so tomorrow arrives and I don’t get to say, “I feel straighter, taller, AND decimated that small goal.” I didn’t let myself get pulled forward by the future – I dug my heels in and stuck with the familiar slump, literally and figuratively. 😉
At least we’re only in the first week of February – I still have time to change my answer for “tomorrow”!
**To clarify: The statement about the past and our future behavior is geared more towards our daily habits/choices. It’s not to belittle the fact that sometimes things happen to us and we can’t flip our perspective when we are lacking the resources/friends/support to keep our nervous systems from getting stuck in dys-regulation – that’s a whole different situation and takes much more effort and support to find the other side of that through deep inner work, embracing compassion, and forgiving ourselves and others. In the realm of CranioSacral Therapy and SomatoEmotional Release, I facilitate a lot of work with trauma and the autonomic nervous system. Our emotions very much impact our health and brain function. If you’re stuck in dys-regulation, please reach out, I can offer resources and support to help you find healthy regulation.